Monday, 26 September 2016

Me, Being Mummy - Again.

I have come to the conclusion that I am not very good at being British. I was born here (sunny seaside town of Brighton... to be precise... when it was a town and not a jumped up City with over priced parking and waaaaay too many people) and am therefore 100% British. But that doesn't mean I am very good at being British. For one, I hate tea. Can't stand the stuff. My Uncle still offers me tea to this day in the hope I will come to my senses and say 'Oooo, yes please, milk 2 sugars.' Makes it extremely awkward when one goes out for afternoon tea and also means I shall never get to fully enjoy ownership of a teapot. Sad times.

Two - I am not good at keeping a stiff upper lip.... at all. The only thing my upper lip has ever been good at keeping is a collection of fine hairs which, thanks to my lovely friends in the beauty biz, get torn off on a (semi) regular basis. Nope, I crack and openly weep on a much more consistently than I wax, which also leads me to number 3 - I do not follow our British mantra of 'Keep calm and carry on'. Ever. Never ever. Which is ironic as have owned many cushions/tea towels/ tea cups (ironic, I know) with the mantra emblazoned across them in hopes of having it sink in. All to no avail. If the mantra was written as 'Panic and stop dead in your tracks', I would be great at being British! Kind of like a rabbit in front of headlights... can you get British rabbits? Or are all rabbits just rabbits, with no need for labels??

Anyway! This rather long winded and slightly delirious ramble leads me to explain why I have not been on the blog for a while... I simply failed at keeping calm and carrying on. My upper lip wobbled (and, I must confess, is also a little hairy due to other distractions) and it is all because the last few months have brought with them some big, BIG news that stopped me dead in my tracks like a scared British Rabbit in its truest form.

Shortly after my last entry, we found out we are having Baby No2!! Gaaahh! Simultaneously excited and petrified in equal measures!



What with the impending arrival being a complete surprise and then suffering for the whole first trimester and even into the second with possibly the worst morning sickness I could have had, I put all of my energies into keeping myself and my little family functioning as best as possible and sadly ran out of steam for pretty much everything else.

Emotionally and physically, I have just been rather shot to pieces. Baby no2 is already so loved and looked forward to, and the the concept of being a family of four is so exciting and humbling. But, I am human and, unlike a rabbit, this particular pregnancy has brought about so many symptoms and emotions and changes in circumstances (main one being pregnant with a 16 month old... Tired doesn't come close) so it's left me quite overwhelmed. And when I say overwhelmed, I mean practically hermit like. To the point where turning my mobile on scared me - conversing with people in general scared me actually - and on some days I've had to parent horizontally from the sofa (to save myself from standing up and puking/seeing the room spin/facing potential risk of head falling off of shoulders) and do the bare minimum of making food, changing nappies then bath and bed before then crawling straight into bed myself. Work has been kept to the bare minimum to accommodate lack of energy and socialising has been done sparingly, also in order to preserve energy for menial things such as housework, food shopping.... breathing.

This summer has been a stressful and tiring one for other personal reasons which I won't bore you with. Hormones in overload, extreme tiredness and morning sickness for almost 16 weeks are the mains ones though, but am now starting to feel a little less stuck in the boggy trap of progesterone and much closer to being my 'normal' self* which means I am back on the blog and looking forward to catching up on all that has been happening since June/July! Am so excited! A new baby, a 16 month old who is now WALKING like a dressage horse in new shoes (see, lots to catch up on!) and everything else in between. Stay tuned!

*Normal self will and shall always resemble scared rabbit, possibly mixed with crazed ostrich which buries head in sand for all occasions where things get far too 'adulty'.

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11 comments:

  1. Congratulations on being pregnant! I've been there many a time, and after a sister who has even worse morning sickness asked me to look into recent research, I came across a previously ignored likely culprit.
    My theory boils down to 1) during pregnancy we make extra hydrogen sulfide as part of making new blood vessels and keeping the uterus from contracting, 2) hydrogen sulfide breaks down to sulfite which can then overwhelm our capacity for breaking down sulfite to sulfate, 3) the extra sulfite makes us vomit, 4) we need to make sure to be getting enough molybdenum, a trace mineral which is part of the enzyme that turns sulfite into sulfate, and 5) we can help get rid of the sulfite without the vomiting by getting enough molybdenum and avoiding sulfites and nitrites. Also, hydrogen sulfide tends to slow down the stomach causing the bloated, too full feeling; that can be helped by peppermint tea and ginger, both of which help the stomach empty faster (but citric acid does the opposite, so watch intake of citric acid). I've been blogging a lot about it all in the past few months, and also made a video to explain the theory. I put it online at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TaweHPbUPL0. I hope all this helps you have a much more pleasant pregnancy now. :)

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  2. I totally get why you wouldn't have been calm. I remember the very feeling when finding out I was having my first! I've not been brave enough to go for a second! But congratulations and well done for taking some time out when you needed it. #marvmondays

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    1. Thank you! I'm not sure if I'm brave or stupid yet but only time will tell!haha! We weren't planning on another yet so that's why it has been such a shock to the system but I'm gradually feeling more excited than fearful now. No time is ever perfect and sometimes fate makes the choice for you ;) thank you so much for reading and commenting. Xo

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  3. Congratulations! I can imagine why you were shocked - finding out you are pregnant is a massive shock even and I can't imagine how it feels whilst caring for a toddler. But it's great that you listened to your body and tried to rest as much as you could. Hope you are starting to feel better and it's lovely you're already excited. It's a wonderful new chapter of life due to start :) #MarvMondays

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    1. Awww;thank you! Looking after a toddler during pregnancy has been pretty hard, much harder than I would have ever expected. But it's been a case of good days where things all fall into place and others where things fall apart... typical motherhood really!haha! You're right though, it is a wonderful new chapter of life due to start and I will be both relishing the time leading up to it beginning and the time after it has begun. Thank you so much for reading and commenting, I really appreciate your time xo

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  4. Congratulations! Yup it's certainly overwhelming but you'll rock it! Hope the pregnancy goes well and that you start to feel better soon. Not easy, this momma lark! :) #MarvMondays

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    1. Thank you so much, sickness and fatigue eased up on week 16/17 and I'm now week 24 nearly so have been enjoying feeling vaguely normal! You're right, it's not easy at all, but the hardest jobs are the most rewarding right? Thank you for taking the time to read and comment!xo

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  5. Congratulations! Hope you carry on feeling less nauseous and more like you! X #MarvMondays

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    1. Thank you, so far so good but sssshh, let's not jinx it ;) thank you for commenting!xx

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  6. Awww congratulations lovely! Such exciting and wonderful news. Going from a family of 3 to 4 really is the best thing. I had awful morning sickness like you for the first three months and pretty much stayed in bed when I wasnt at work, with the little one dragged in there with me (poor thing). Glad you've turned the corner, its about to get so much easier and enjoyable again :-) Thanks for sharing this is on #MarvMondays. Emily

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    1. Aww, thanks sweet, I am much more excited about things now that I don't feel so ill. Sounds like we both did the same thing with laying down wherever and whenever possible to cope!haha! You're very welcome, shall see you on next week's linky!xoxo

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